Ok, so I've learned over the years that I need to weed out people in my life that just drive me insane with stupid life choices. A year ago, I had a huge falling out that was a long time in the making with one of my best friends from high school.
I'll explain the situation: I won't deny the guy had a hard life that I won't get into, but for awhile in high school he was pretty much homeless and suicidal. Me and two other friends took turns having him live in our family's homes so he had somewhere to sleep, eat and someone to watch over him in his not so good state. I lost a relationship in high school because I was too busy trying to concentrate on getting this friend back on his feet.
He eventually got this shit together, but was forced to move out to the middle of nowhere with his family (another long story I won't get into), and dropped out of high school. He eventually moved back to the city, went from one medial job to another while the rest of us were in college. He was happy working his jobs in fast food, movie theaters etc., but if he was happy then whatever.
The first straw that started people turning on him was when he was in a friends wedding party, one of the friends that helped look after him and gave him a roof to live under in high school. He didn't show to any wedding function, not even the bachelor party, and he was a giant question mark on whether he'd even show to the wedding, but he did. The friend that got married was so pissed at his childish stupidity that he cut him out of his life after his wedding. I was pissed too, but when I came home I at least tried a few times to reach out to him to hang out and play videogames or something. I think I hung out with him once since the wedding.
I had him on facebook and was getting sick and tired of reading about him a) bitching about his job working at a college cafeteria b) complaining about how bad his life is and c) reading his crap that looked like something a 15 year old wrote. The guy's a year older than me!
He posted something stupid on facebook, I can't remember what and I made a sarcastic comment (which I'm known to do... pretty much all the time). He sent me this long message calling me an asshole saying I've changed from the fun/silly guy in high school into a sarcastic dick. I simply replied that I am the same person, I've just grown up which he clearly hadn't done. Ditching his friends, the SAME friends that were there for him during bad times, gave him a place to crash and food to eat so he can hang out with his "new and cooler" late teen-early 20s friends. He was 30! I went on saying that if he's unhappy with work and his life to stop complaining like a 15 year old and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Go back, get your high school diploma, more jobs will open up. Then if you want go to college for something you love! Basically stop living like your in high school and grow the fuck up before you lose all the friends you had for teeny bobbers of the moment.
He then proceeded to say he has grown up and matured (yeah right) and that we turned out backs on him, that we snub our noses at him blah blah blah and then proceeded to delete me from facebook. I was fine with that, he just burnt another bridge with another friend which means he really had one left from high school.
This past weekend I got together with a friend, the third guy who looked after this guy during high school, and for some reason we started talking about him again. The friend I was having a beer with, the last guy to be his friend from way back said he's now officially done with him too as he still continues to not want to grow up. His latest plan is to be a "youtube star videogame reviewer", you know like millions of other people on the internet. Still talks and acts like he's 15, still complain about everything and still hangs out with late-teenage fools with the same maturity level as him.
I checked out his youtube page a shook my head. I don't know why this bothers me. The guy's out of my life. It just feels like a waste seeing someone stuck in such a immature and silly mindset. He never grew up and one day, when he's 50 it's going to hit him and hit him hard... he wasted his life and friendships, people that did truly care about him for stupid pointless retarded shit.
Sorry, been awhile since I've had a gear-grinding rant, and a lot of this post as probably a jumbled mess but it's just something that's bothered me the last few days.
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Mr. Black: "No."